Recently, life has been pretty balls to the walls balancing work, blogging, CPA studying and still trying to be a good daughter, friend, girlfriend, etc. I’m sure you have those days (possibly even weeks) in life where it just feels like you’re going and going but you’ve lost focus. Well if you haven’t, I’m not sorry to say that I have had these days on occasion. It usually comes when life is coming at me pretty fast and sometimes there isn’t the time I need or would like, to really focus on the end goal and to remember why I am doing all of this ripping and running in the first place.
I’ve actually found a few things that help bring things back in focus when I need to re-center myself. I will say that it has come with a lot of trial and error but it boils down to this is what works for me and after doing these things, its easier for me to re-center myself and regain focus on the end goal. Hopefully, some of these will help you as well when you lose focus.
- Write Mantras. I’ve started writing (not typing, but pen to paper writing) and saying mantras. There are technically quite a few different definitions for mantras, but simply put, a mantra is a “tool of the mind that has a spiritual effect on a person’s will or emotional state of being”. Some mantras that I use to help keep me focused are “I will succeed and accomplish all of the goals I have set forth for myself”, “There is no room for distraction or negativity in my space today”, “I am keeping the end goal in mind to land at a successful expected end” and “I attract all that is good, peaceful and financially sound to me”. I say these mantras out loud (or write them down) and by putting these into the Universe I am mentally re-focusing my energy towards what matters in my life.
- Start a gratefulness journal. I think sometimes I just forget that shit is really not as serious as I make it out to be. There are people around the world dealing with some real life mess. By writing down what I am grateful for (big and small) I am reminded that it’s really not as bad as it seems. Not only does writing in a gratefulness journal trigger your memory of how good you have it but its also pretty dope to go back and read what you’re grateful for as well.
- Disconnect. The BIGGEST culprit of stealing focus is technology. Trust me on this. Whenever I have a goal, if I am distracted, nine times out of ten it is due to technology. I’ve gotten some of my best work done when I completely disconnect from technology, namely social media. Not only is this a great habit from a focus perspective, but it also a form of self-care that I can say works for me. On social media, we are so immersed in everyone else’s life and goals we rarely have time for our own.
- Re-visit your goals. I am a fan of doing quarterly goals. If you are subscribed to the C+C newsletter, then you know how important this is to me. As important as it is to do these quarterly goals, it is just as important to take the time to re-visit them. There is no better way to regain focus than looking back at goals that YOU created for YOURSELF. Only you know why you made that goal for yourself, in the words of the late Stephen Covey – always begin with the end in mind.
- Remember why you started. This one is simple. Many times, we lose focus for the simple reason of we forgot why we started. There is a reason you get up at 5 am every morning, why you have to turn down an outing with friends every now and again, why you push yourself to lead that meeting at work that you otherwise would be scared out of your mind to do. Take time and remind yourself why you started, and it’ll help you remember how you want to end.
There’s no fault in getting un-focused, the fault is in staying unfocused. We all stray, a lot goes on in life, so it’s pretty impossible to be completely unfocused 100% of the time. Just make sure you have the tools to get re-centered and remember why you started.