Hey love bugs! Good evening from Amsterdam! Yes, I am mid-vacation and loving Amsterdam. I head to Nice, France tomorrow, and I cant wait to share the details! I just couldn’t wait to get back to the states to share my #MyTaughtYou live podcast experience (It’s been about a week, but it still feels like I was just there last night). So many gems were dropped by Myleik and her guests – Karleen Roy (@vanitygroupNYC) and Toni Martin (@urbanluxelife)). Okay, so before I dive in, lets back track a bit. Myleik Teele is the creator and founder of Curlbox which are hand selected products for curly hair girls that are delivered straight to you every month. This has also evolved into CurlBox Man, CurlBox Skin, and CurlBox kids (it’s kind of big deal). She also hosts an amazing podcast, which is how I encountered her. Ever since I found out about her podcast, I would wait for new episodes faithfully. She would consistently give straight advice with no chaser and it was very evident that she had the best interest of her speakers at heart. I was intrigued by how the podcast seamlessly drew together the topics of love, health, career, relationships and finances from the perspective of one of your closest friends (did I mention, in my head this is the homegirl). Fast forward to August 12, 2017, and I was attending her first live podcast in Atlanta, GA with two of my closest friends. Can you say excited?!
Not only were the guests in for a treat of attending a live podcast, which was basically like being in Myleik’s living room having girl talk, but she also had two amazing guests, Karleen Roy (Founder of the Vanity Group) and Toni Martin (Creator of Urban Luxe Papers). When I say that it was just like talking to your closest girlfriends, that is the best way to describe it. I had an amazing time, bonded with so many other sisters as we were emitting crazy levels of Black Girl Magic, and caught so many gems that the ladies were willing to share. I wanted to share with you a few quick lessons that I learned during the MyTaughtYou live podcast.
- Do not let your fine print become your bold print. This was the main theme of the night. This resonated so closely with me because we are so prone to highlight what we are not, instead of what we are. There’s a hand of cards that everyone is dealt in life. The cards I’m referring to are the situations in life that you really didn’t have much control over. For example, your parents, how you were raised, your gender, your race, what you went through as a child, etc. However, all those traits are the “fine print” of our lives. What Myleik explained was that this is not what defines us. Time to stop with the excuses of what you cant do and start seeking pride in what you CAN do and who you truly are. Being a young African-American female in corporate America, I’m all too familiar of the hindrances that my “fine print” can pose. However, instead of letting that fine print classify my career, I’ve decided that my bold print would be such traits as reliable, hard-working, punctual, responsible and dependable. And when my name is spoken in rooms where I’m not present, the bold print would speak volumes.
- A redefined connotation of “settling”. One of the funniest stories of the evening was Myleik’s story of moving here from L.A. and breaking up with the guy that she was with at the time (okay – may not sound funny, but you have to hear how she tells it – trust me). The story then moves on to Toni discussing the book that she gave Myleik after this break-up titled “Marry Him: The Case for Settling for Mr. Good Enough” by Lori Gottlieb. After Myleik’s hilarious description of what the book entails, Toni broke it down a bit further explaining the essence of what the book was about. Her explanation of the book struck a chord with me because in the search for a life partner, traits such as height, looks, etc. matter less and less. More of what matters now is “will this man be a partner that I can truly ‘do life’ with?”, “will this man make a good father?”, and “will this man be strong for me when I can’t be strong for myself?”. These questions have become a higher priority for me over the years. Me 10 years ago would have called this “settling”, especially if he wasn’t a certain height or looked a certain way. However, now settling would be accepting anything less. There’s always that friend to remind you about that when you forget. Seems that at a point in life, Toni served as that for Myleik and it was reassuring hearing their story.
- If you lose focus, you aren’t working hard enough. There was actually more than enough time set aside by Myleik for the famed “question and answer” period. I will admit that some pretty good questions come through on the recorded podcasts so I was a bit excited when this portion of the night came up. One of the questions that was asked was “what do you do when you feel yourself getting unfocused or unexcited after so much time?”. In the simplest terms, both Myleik and Karleen both agreed that you basically aren’t working hard enough if you’re losing focus. Work harder. If you know me, you know one of my ALL TIME favorite quotes when I am feeling unmotivated is “nobody cares, work harder”. When you are unmotivated, or not feeling focused, or just not giving it your all, your competition is. At the end of the day, the results will come if you put in the work. I’ve always been a firm believer in this. It was pretty dope knowing that this sentiment was shared with another girl boss who is making her name known.
If you haven’t gotten into Myleik’s podcast, I’d suggest you do yourself a favor and get on it. Especially if you’re navigating this whole “coming into adulthood thing” and staying true to YOUR truth. Myleik was just as real in her live podcast as I imagined her to be from the years of listening to her podcast. Myleik, thank you for allowing us to witness your journey of growth and contributing so much to mine. Wishing you many more years of success and living your truth so fiercely and unapologetically.